Challenges...

First and Foremost thing i would like to say you is this, that "In the whole universe there is only one person, who can help you; and that person is you and only you, and nobody other than you can help you."

Yeah what others can do is they can give u some advice and suggestion which they feel is the best to use in challenges, as they would have used those kind of solution in their tough times and that worked for them(though not always) or they would have got those ideas from their mentors.

So the best thing what others ( including me) can do is this, that we can give you advice & solution what we feel will be the best for you, but we can't help you to take you out of your challenges, because we are not in your shoes. We can see your challenge, we can understand what are you going through , but we can never feel your challenges, as you feel it, because your and ours life situation, circumstances , environment etc...are completely different So its you who has to think and think what best u can do to come out of your challenge. Ya you must take others experience and advice so that you have more choices to think what will work for you.

Challenge which you are facing is a very common challenge as many people would have gone through this part in their life towards their growth. Recognizing this challenge itself says that u are growing and this is just one of the process towards your growth. Just think gold has to go through the fire to become pure. Same is with the people who have the real spark of growing in their life has to go through different kinds of challenges at different parts of life. Remember if there is no challenge then there is no growth.

So first and foremost take a break from everything, from business, family, parents etc... and go for a small or long ( what ever u feel comfortable) holiday trip. Do what u feel like doing ( provided you should not feel regret later, so choose the activities properly) and enjoy the most what you are doing.

Start doing meditation every day, if u feel meditation is a tough task then take some time for yourself everyday, sit in isolated place and think about yourself about your goal, about your past (only happiness part, never give a damn about what worst happened in your life, learn from the past mistakes), about your future etc... think what u feel like which will give you relaxation or do anything what u feel like for eg: listening music, or going for a drive, but remember u should be alone, no wife, no friends, no parents, no mobile, no tv, nothing, only you with yourself and your activities which make you relaxed.

Join some outdoor activity which make your body work out, it can be anything like aerobices, cycling, excercise, gym, cricket, swmming anything which u like.

Then most of the time be with those ppl who always apperciates and encourages you and your work and never give negative critics. ya listen and introspect all the positive criticism and always ignore negative critics. Again learn from the Critics towards you. Try to be a goo d listener rather than getting into any debates.

Stop gossiping and criticizing others with your friends, if your are doing that then you also have to face that. So better be a good friend. If you need a good friend then first be a good friend to yourself. Try to respect yourself first.

Note all your official challenge and personal challenge into a paper and start exploring it one by one on how to solve it. Take others advice if required, but remember don't take others decision, just take their advice and you decide what to do.

Stop blaming & complaining and take responsibility of your own life. You got only one life; make the best of it.

Things will come back on track if you want them to come back to your own track..!!!